Let me preface this post by saying no, I am not expecting a daughter (or son) anytime in the near future. Although thinking and observing what state the world is in and paying close attention to my generation in particular, I was inspired to think deeper into my future and the future of our country. I have always thought about the kind of impact I want to have on people in my daily life, my professional life, and on this website that you’re reading. As I get older I realize that I will someday have the opportunity to leave the greatest impact of my life on someone; my future children. I can only hope to bring respectful, hardworking, humble people into this world. So…
To my future daughter,
If someday you get to read this, that means you can read, so we’re off to a good start. I hope that you grow into a smart, capable, determined woman. In no way do I want you to become a carbon copy of me, and I do want to give you the tools to become your own person. A person who knows the value of hard work, understands the world, and forms her own thoughts regarding it. Politics and parenting can be predictable (say that three times fast); for example it is assumed that conservative parents equal conservative children and the same with liberal parents. I don’t wish to inflict my political views onto you, and have you believe every opinion I have on the subject (because I have a lot of them). Instead I want you to be strong and independent enough to educate yourself and form your own opinions. Parents who expect their children to believe everything they say are doing them a disservice. The goal should be to raise well-informed, independent thinkers. I want to you to be a tenacious woman, capable of taking care of yourself, but not be so self-righteous that you must tear down others to prove your worth. I hope that I can teach you an independent woman can still coexist with men and other strong women at home and at work, without feeling threatened or the need to compete. I hope that you will always stand up for what you believe is right and respect those with differing opinions from yours. I hope (selfishly) that you have a passion for politics as I do, but if you don’t I hope you can still see the first woman president. I hope that woman is worthy of the position, and is a role model to girls all over the world. I hope that my generation is doing a good job at running this country, and leaving a better world for our children. I hope that the millennials who have fallen into the victim mentality as of 2017 have snapped back into reality and are now contributing to the futures of themselves and their children. I hope that we, as a nation, deeply respect this country that we are lucky enough to call home, and instill that patriotism into our children, regardless of political affiliation.
Daughter, I hope you know that you are capable of accomplishing whatever goals you may have. I hope you know that I will never let you take anything for granted. I hope you know I will do my best to equip you with everything you will need to take on this world, confident in who you are and what you have to offer. I hope that you take on your failures with class, and accept your successes humbly and graciously. Celebrate your femininity, and empower other women. Know that you will not always get everything you want, and that’s okay. If you want to make a change in the world, put forth effort in a productive way, and know that you can make that change. I can only hope that your generation is better than mine at trying to inspire change in our country. I hope your generation learns that throwing a temper tantrum is not the way to get what you want. I hope your generation is hard-working, successful, and understands the value of a dollar and the work it takes to earn it. I hope your generation can accept adversity with poise and grace. However, I cannot raise an entire generation. I can only raise you to be the woman that I’ve described. Hopefully that is enough to light the fire that inspires you to be anything but ordinary.